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Brothers share the gift of life

This World Kidney Day, we chat to one of our intensive care unit nurses about how a kidney transplant transformed his life. Peter Brown had a transplant three and a half years ago from his younger brother, Paul, as a consequence of developing kidney failure 20 years before.

“It was very slow deterioration, but in the last five years I became really sick and my condition worsened. The ideas of a living donor transplant came up via my surgeon. I mentioned it to Paul and he said yes. I didn’t take it seriously at the time, as we weren’t at that point yet – but as time went on I asked him again and he said yes,” said Peter, who has worked at the Trust for 19 years.

"Paul has always been a very giving young man, ever since he was a baby. He looks after my mum and dad, and always thinks of other people. The type of brother he is I knew that he meant it, there was no hesitation - I knew it was genuine."

For Paul, he knew it was going to be a big decision all round but he knew he had to do something, as he had seen his brother very ill for a long time. The effect Peter’s illness was having on himself and his family meant that it was a natural decision for Paul to come to.

“We were all discussing it and it just felt like the automatic thing to say. I started to talk about it more often so that it became something that was known from the get go, if we were going to go down that path, all day long you can have my kidney,” said Paul. Peter and Paul BrownPaul and Peter Brown

Across the UK, more than 1,000 people each year donate a kidney while they are still alive to a relative, friend or someone they do not know. A healthy person can lead a normal life with only one functioning kidney.

"I was conscious that as a big brother, Peter has always been looking out for us and he probably didn’t want to cause any undue harm to us, so I know it would have been a difficult thing to ask – so I kind of met him halfway knowing it would be the most sensible solution."

Knowing that he was going to receive a kidney was a relief for Peter – although it wasn’t a given straight away as the brothers had to go through numerous tests to prove they were compatible for a transplant.

“It gave me hope though, as if I was waiting for someone to unfortunately pass away, I would have found that extremely stressful as there is such a long waiting list,” said Peter. The average waiting time for a kidney transplant from someone who has died is more than two and a half years, and sadly, some people die waiting.

“Being a nurse you had a bit more knowledge as what van go wrong and what you may face in the future, so the last five years before the transplant was stressful as I knew if I didn’t have a transplant soon, I would be on regular dialysis and my life would be shortened to some degree.”

It took around 14 months to go through all the tests, however once the brothers got the green light they were in theatre within two weeks.

"I wouldn’t hesitate again if I could. It’s changed my life and hand-on-heart I can say it hasn’t affected me in any shape or form. I feel as well as I did before, just probably a bit more enriched in the fact I’ve donated and I can see the difference in somebody as close as my brother."

said Paul

“It’s quite a significant moment in our time that we shared. It’s brought us two closer together and made me realise what’s really important in your life: family and friends. I found it was a really exciting process being able to make that significant and tangible change to somebody’s life.”

After the surgery, as you could expect Peter thanked his younger brother a lot for the gift he had given him. Paul told him to thank him one more time and that was it.

"I haven’t since, but he knows how thankful I am. As I said before, Paul is a special person and I knew he would do anything for me, and vice versa I would do it for him. What he did was a gift; he’s given me the gift of life."

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